Most leaders I meet genuinely believe they’re "emotionally intelligent".
But after years navigating the hidden dynamics of espionage, let me be blunt: most aren't even close...
In the world I come from we use YOUR emotional blind spots. They are the first vulnerabilities we look for.
To win a deal.
To break you.
To steal from you.
To understand you.
Whether it’s an asset we're recruiting, an informant we're handling, or a target we're surveilling, your emotional vulnerabilities are your opponent’s greatest leverage.
Your mind: the ultimate target
You can hire the best security, use the most sophisticated surveillance, and have top cybersecurity. But none of that protects your most sensitive, most critical frontier - your mind.
Only YOU can build your psychological defenses.
No one else - not your security team, spouse, kids, or therapist - can guard your internal barriers for you.
This internal security is emotional intelligence.
Everyone talks about emotional intelligence, but few really practice it.
How many people have you met who claim emotional mastery yet interrupt every conversation, fill every silence with noise, or crumble under genuine critique?
True emotional intelligence is intense, uncomfortable, and brutally honest.
It means: